I believe that the Scripture teaches that the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church.
I do not, however, identify with Complementarianism, believing that it, as formulized by John Piper, Wayne Grudem, et al., is a corruption of the Bible’s teaching.
That being said, it is curious to me that some of the Complementarian persuasion tend to emphasize the headship of the husband when it involves authority, making the rules, deciding all issues and demanding unquestioning obedience – but his headship is strangely missing when involving culpability.
For example, the male (according to many CBMW writers and bloggers) is the rational one, the one able to separate emotion from reason and therefore the one capable of making decisions. The woman is easily deceived, emotional, irrational, and therefore built for submission and nurturing.
And yet, at the same time, a male cannot be expected to control himself when a young girl happens to wear a sleeveless blouse. He cannot be trusted to dine with a female business colleague alone, and must be chaperoned when he is courting a young woman, and is excused from culpability in sexual assault if his victim is:
- not dressed right
- drinking too much
- in the wrong place at the wrong time
- straying from home
- bathing in the courtyard behind the walls of her home but visible from the neighbor’s roof.
- or being too attractive
- or simply being too feminine.
- or simply being a woman.
A man, according to some in the CBMW movement, is the natural authority and leader, according to nature and the Bible – unless it involves his own sexuality, in which case he is not in control at all. It seem strangely backwards to me.
In fact, it doesn’t take much research to see that whenever there is great sin involved, everyone is responsible except for the male in “authority”.
It seems to me that it goes back to the fall, with “the woman thou gavest me…”
And it also seems to me that the responsibility of headship involves, at the very least, the spiritual gift of self-control. Is not our example of headship Christ himself?